I used to have a hard time slowing down because I was terrified of being lazy.
When I dug a little deeper, I discovered that underneath this fear of laziness was a fear of being worthless. I held a belief that if I wasn’t productive and didn’t get enough things done, then I had no inherent value.
I would race around manically, compulsively doing what I thought needed to be done in order to be productive and successful—including finishing my plate as quickly as possible. I was very much fueled by my fear of being lazy, my biggest fear being that I’d become “a homeless hippie on the side of the road,” that I’d have nothing to offer and therefore no personal significance
The more I think about it now, the more I start to see the fear of laziness as a byproduct of industrialized culture. In a way, our society supports this fear in order to create the conditions for industry to thrive. Imagine what would happen if everyone just... stopped?
I’m not arguing a political stance; but I am offering insight into why we may fear laziness, how it harms us, and how it may be deeply rooted in a fear of not being worthy—especially among women, who have had to work hard to prove their value in a male-dominated, industrialized world.
What if you knew that you are worthy simply because you exist? What if your value was simply the fact that you’re you? What if you knew deep in your bones that no amount of work or productivity or racing around would increase your true worth? What if you allowed yourself to slow down, rest, and take pleasure in the small things—like eating and moving joyfully—not because you “earned” it, but simply because you are?
At a time in my life when I needed to slow down the most, I went to an event called Goddess On The Go in New York that shifted a lot for me. For the first time, I felt fully supported in my desire to slow down. I felt connected to a powerful web of women who were ready to fill their lives with meaning, sisterhood, and love.
Now I have the incredible honor of presenting at the next Goddess On The Go event on April 17th. I’ll be talking about accessing our bodies’ wisdom and eating with self-love. I'll also be guiding us through a mindful eating meditation and giving us a chance to deepen our trust with our bodies. It's going to be delicious. For more details, click here.
Early bird tickets are on sale now, and you can get a $20 discount if you use my discount code, “AD” (all caps). Here’s the link to claim your spot.
The day will be filled with other amazing speakers, workshops, body work, and opportunities to connect with other women who are on the path to self-love and deeper connection to others, the path of the heart. It really feels like a day of "filling up the tank."
If you feel called and ready to invest in yourself this way, I highly encourage you to come. It’s amazing what can change in a day.
Whether I see you there or not, I wish that you remember how worthy you are, and how allowed you are to move slowly and enjoy it all, no matter what you have or haven’t accomplished today.